Turns out my husband and I are on the same page...job-wise.  He just has zero capability to share that with me without two or three days to think about it.

Talked a long time last night.  Neither of us WANT to move.  Especially because we're going to take a bath on this house.  I need to have a realtor come over before I decide to take any job that requires moving.  The company that's 2 hours away has some relocation package....but I doubt it's going to cover the $10K or so we'd have to take to closing.  Which means we either walk away from this house, trashing our credit in the process and rent for the next 5-7 years, or we're stuck in this house.  I don't have a problem being in this house....but finding a job within an hour is proving fairly difficult.  Although I've had considerable luck in the last week it appears.

The biggest issue is, of course, his job.  But even he's at the point where he knows he's only there to keep his family happy.  It's a complete and total dead end job and he admits that now.  So if we move.  It HAS to be for a job where he could be a SAHD.  He enjoyed it a lot more than I do.  I really thought I'd like this more than I do.  But it's been 7 months.  And while I'm not chomping at the bit to return to work, I'd like to leave the house occasionally.  Right now, honestly, the only time I leave is when I go running.  Three times a week.  And at least once a week, I do that in the basement on the treadmill.  I'm starting to go nuts.  But we're pretty poor at the moment.  Nothing like trying to support 6 people on $33K.

Anyway.  Monday I have a job interview.  It's for a job I don't really want.  It barely pays more than unemployment.  Seriously.  $40K a year.  Which is decent for around here actually.  But is CRAP compared to what I made at my last job.  We were finally at the point where he was going to quit and SAH...when they announced they were splitting up and selling off the company.  We had to wait until we sold the old house, plus 6 months to make sure we were covered for anything, building up some savings etc.  I got laid off 6 months after we sold the old house...and it wasn't a surprise.  We both knew it was coming, which was why he hadn't already quit.

However - if I get that job, I'll have to take it or lose my UE.  And that means that I have 40 min commute, for $20K less a year.  So obviously, he will not be able to SAH.  Will still have to have my mom watch the kids...likely need to have her do more chauffering than she was before.  (At the old job I could drop the girls off at school on my way.)   This job is rotating.  Every 3 months, a different shift.  The 4th rotation is at the truck plant.  (On 1st shift I think)  But being back at the truck plant would be hard enough.  I worked there for 5 years.  Both he and I wish neither of us had ever quit.  He really thought he was headed to better opportunity at his family business though.  And I thought I was going SAH forever.  See how far that got me......

Anyway.  He says whatever we determine to be best for all 6 of us, whether it's moving or staying here, he'll support me.  And he'll quit to SAH.  But he also pointed out...if we're going to move, why limit ourselves to 2 hours?  Why not look anywhere in the country?  (I kinda want to stick to 3 hours away or so honestly, just so we're a car ride away from family.)  It just took him 2 days to say all this....of course, he had a miserable 2 days, because I was pissed.